For me, I greatly fear never having a child. I was in a two-way in-love relationship 25 years ago that should have led to a family of my own. In recent years, I have completed all eligibility to become an adoptive parent, but the candy store analogy is pervasive in all on-line environments, including that of open adoptions. Perhaps if I was more focused when I was younger (I am 55), or, yes, knew how to invite happiness into my life. For now, making a difference in the lives of children is a befitting legacy.
I was too afraid to connect with others. Being abused as a child (used as an ashtray when I misbehaved, spent hours kneeling on the floor because I was a sinner, having really thick glasses as a kid and being beat up at school. I am still very afraid of other people and super withdrawn. I wish I would have experienced love instead of ridicule. Now I'm left with a sense of what I could've been, but now in my 50s I feel that it's passed me by. No kids no parents nothing except a sadness.
BOOK DISCUSSION QUESTION: Deathbed regrets, I have a few (with apologies to Frank Sinatra)
For me, I greatly fear never having a child. I was in a two-way in-love relationship 25 years ago that should have led to a family of my own. In recent years, I have completed all eligibility to become an adoptive parent, but the candy store analogy is pervasive in all on-line environments, including that of open adoptions. Perhaps if I was more focused when I was younger (I am 55), or, yes, knew how to invite happiness into my life. For now, making a difference in the lives of children is a befitting legacy.
I was too afraid to connect with others. Being abused as a child (used as an ashtray when I misbehaved, spent hours kneeling on the floor because I was a sinner, having really thick glasses as a kid and being beat up at school. I am still very afraid of other people and super withdrawn. I wish I would have experienced love instead of ridicule. Now I'm left with a sense of what I could've been, but now in my 50s I feel that it's passed me by. No kids no parents nothing except a sadness.