💬 Thursday Thread: What might your deathbed regret be?

And the #1 thing the women I interviewed for my book said they worry about

In case you missed it this week:

• I ran a replay of my first podcast conversation with Gretchen Carlson;

• I shared the 8 ways my upcoming book, Fired Up, will change your life;

• I had an amazing conversation with

  Katie Phang
  on Substack Live

And don’t forget, you only have until June 17th to order my book and enroll for FREE in Firestarter University, my year-long online course focused on igniting your fire.

Keep scrolling for this week’s Thursday Thread…

I interviewed over 70 women for my upcoming book, Fired Up, and one of the questions I asked them was what they thought their deathbed regret would be. For the women who were moms, almost all of them said they were worried that if they lived their life the way they wanted to, it would come at the expense of their children. Sadly, “mom ­guilt”—the feeling that a child will somehow suffer if their mother pursues her own ­fulfillment—is what most often prevents them from growing their fire.

But as someone who is an empty nester, I can promise you that your kids will not only be proud of you when you pursue what you want, but that they’ll also be grateful you had something to focus on besides them. This topic also came up in two recent Substack Live conversations: with author Gretchen Rubin, and with political commentator Katie Phang. I highly recommend watching the replays if you haven’t already.

👉 For today’s Thursday Thread, here’s what I want to know:

• Do you relate to the worry that living how you want will negatively impact the people you’re taking care of (kids, partners, parents)?

• What are you concerned your deathbed regret will be?

Welcome to the Thursday Threads, a weekly chance for us to connect with one another in the comments. Join me and other readers as we navigate important discussions. And a note: a difference of opinion is always okay, being unkind to one another is not. Let’s keep these conversations respectful.

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